You deserve your good thoughts

The person that needs to do something is not that person.  The person that needs to do something is you!  Some of those people in your life do not deserve your good thoughts.  In other words, “They are bad.  They are evil.  They are wrong!  They are inappropriate.  They do not deserve your good thoughts,” and you stubbornly are not going to give them any.  They may not deserve your good thoughts.  But you do.  You deserve your good thoughts about them.  This is what the Art of Allowing is.  It’s allowing my own Well-being.

— Abraham

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I think it’s a natural tendency of human beings (animals don’t seem to hold grudges for very long) to want to wallow in our anger or misery, especially when we think someone else is to blame for it.  There’s something satisfying about being pissed off at somebody, isn’t there?  It gives you the opportunity to get your emotions all worked up, and it feels physically good to be in that state, even if we don’t recognize it in the moment.  It’s a bit like how you feel after a workout.

The problem is that the mental state you are in at that moment doesn’t feel all that good, and if you can’t recognize it & detach yourself from the negative emotion involved, it can easily become a spiral of negativity.  And THAT isn’t going to do you any good.

What you (we all) need to do at that point is to find a way to change your thoughts as quickly as possible.  You may not have the ability to think good things about that person right then and there, but you DO have the ability to take your thoughts away from them and think about something else.   ANYTHING else, so long as it’s a more positive thought.  Then, at some point down the road, you can find a way to think less negative, and yes, even more positive thoughts about the person in question.

THEY may not deserve your good thoughts, but YOU deserve to think them.

——— Tim