Stop playing the blame game

I’m getting to the point where I don’t feel all that motivated by the Abraham quotes to write about them.  If you follow their work, you know that the message is the same.  Always.  And, if your message is always the same, you have no choice but to repeat yourself, no matter how hard you might try to rephrase things.  It’s inevitable.

What’s NOT inevitable is my motivation to keep commenting on the same message.  Somewhere along the line, it just begins to seem redundant (it is) and unnecessary (it should be), but…

A friend of mine has attended a number of Abraham-Hicks workshops, and he’s commented to me that a lot (most!) of the attendees really just don’t get the message.  In conversation with them over lunch, for example, they willingly share how much they still struggle with issues in their lives, even though those issues could be corrected fairly easily if they were addressed using the Law of Attraction principles taught by Esther and Abraham, and even though they may have been “studying” those principles for years.

I see this as a lack of critical thinking skills (possibly combined with an unwillingness to accept personal responsibility for where they are in life and where they want to go – it’s all on YOU!).  This is core to the message I want to get out.  If you don’t know how to take an objective look at your problems, or how to ask the kinds of questions that will allow you to uncover the answers, you don’t stand a snowball’s chance of moving forward in life.

I’m toying with the idea that another factor in this equation is guilt.  SO many people just can’t/won’t accept that they are where they are, regardless of how or why, and shift their focal energies toward progressing in their lives.  They seem determined to blame someone.  This is a natural tendency.

Here’s the problem with that tendency: the word “blame” comes with baggage.  If someone is to blame, then someone is supposed to be punished.  Society is set up that way.

Now, along comes a teacher who says that you can change your life; you can be happier.  GREAT!  I like that.  But, wait…  If there’s room to improve my happiness quotient, then I’m not as happy as I could be, and there’s a reason for that.  SOMEONE is responsible for my lack of complete happiness.  SOMEONE is to blame for my state of lack.  SOMEONE needs to be punished.

What happens when that teacher says that the person responsible for your situation is you?  By your logic, you have to hold yourself responsible.  You have to be punished.

This is where the train of thought becomes faulty.  You are where you are because of the actions you took (or didn’t take), based on the decisions you made, based on the life programming you had received to that point.  There is no blame to be placed.  Your programming determined what you would do.  You had no choice in the matter.  There is nothing you need to punish yourself for (societal rules are part of another discussion; if you are convicted of murder, you should rightfully expect to be punished by society).

So, throw out that tendency to blame, because as long as you hold onto it, you’ll never move forward.  Instead, just focus on your future; on your desires; on who or what or where you want to be.  Because, guess what?  You’re responsible for that, too!  Why not just give yourself something to look forward to?

——Tim

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