Because “self” is not a 4-letter word

If you’re not selfish enough to want to feel good, then you can’t connect with the energy that is your Source which does always feel good.

— Abraham


I recently attended a “bust-thru-your-self-imposed-limits” type seminar.  One nugget I came away with – not news, but the phrasing worked for me – was, “You’re no good to the world poor.”  This is a perspective I’ve held for a long time.  People who feel guilty about wanting to be successful, or wanting to have ‘things’, always argue with something like, “Yeah, well I saw a news report about a homeless guy who volunteered at a nursing home.”

Here’s the flaw in that argument: It’s only 1 guy!  He’s NOT representative of the rest of his peers.  Mother Teresa did amazing things, but how many others like her can you name?  How much more could she have done if she was funded by the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation?

Steve Jobs set out to change the world, and he did.  Along the way, he charged premium prices for his products.  He was motivated as much by self-interest as altruism.  Had he given his computers away at cost, you would never have heard his name.  He would have helped a few people, but the effect would have been like a grain of sand on the beach.

Henry Ford, Andrew Carnegie, J. Clement Stone, John D. Rockefeller, J. P. Morgan and many others who are commonly named as titans of industry in the early 1900’s, are also commonly perceived to be robber barons who oppressed their workers, and squeezed every penny they could from the public to become personally wealthy.  They were tremendously selfish.  But, they were also tremendously beneficial to the welfare of their employees and their families, as well as to the wealth of this country and the progress of the world.

If you have something to offer the world, you should EXPECT to be compensated for it.  Not only is it your RIGHT, but it is your DUTY to yourself, your family and your universe to be as prosperous as you can be.

Want to help others?  Get selfish!  Make more money!

Are your heartstrings pulled by the TV commercials asking for money to save abused animals?  Did you sign up to send the $19/mo?  Is that the best you can do?  If so, you’re not selfish enough!  Make more money!

Want to help your church?  Make more money, so you can stop using God as an excuse to be poor.  God wants you to be rich!

Love of self does not exclude love of others.  Love of self is REQUIRED to help others.  Ever been on an airplane?  Why do you think they tell you to put YOUR oxygen mask on first in an emergency?  Because, THEN you will be able to help others with theirs.  If you are low on oxygen, your capacity to help ANYONE goes away in seconds.

Want to have more money?  More love in your life?  More self-confidence?  More of anything?  You’ve got to be more selfish.

“Oh, but Tim!  Being selfish is wrong.  Hurting others is wrong.  Depriving others is wrong.”  How do you make the leap from taking care of yourself first, to hurting or depriving others?  Right now, you may be saying, “I didn’t say that!  I don’t think that!”  But, if you haven’t been nodding your head in agreement with my earlier statements, you absolutely DO think that, at least at some level.

There is no shortage of anything in this world.  Not money, not water, not food, not shelter, not clothing, not love, not ANHYTHING!  If I get myself a big slice of one particular pie, it doesn’t mean that you or anyone else is going to be deprived of your share.  Ever seen two people so in love that they get lost in each other’s eyes?  Did you feel less loved because they were feeling so much of it?  Ridiculous, right?

Focusing on thinking thoughts that will make you feel better is selfish.  It’s self-focused.  And it’s the way to prosperity in any area of your life.

SELF is NOT a 4-letter word.


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